On the impossibility of pleasing everyone and anyone.
As much as one tries, I think it is impossible to please everyone at any one time. It is also, sadly, impossible to please anyone, at all times. Meaning, that at some time, one is bound to displease someone.
I have written many posts over the past few years. I have come to notice that whenever I write anything that expresses a clear opinion, that it always excites a variety of responses. Some like the comment and approve. Others are critical of the comment but reasoned in their replies. Some, however, are clearly displeased and express their thoughts either sarcastically or in a hostile manner. It is this latter group that take much of the pleasure out of writing. They make the writer's life punishing at times. There is, therefore, a force that drives one to silence. If a writer, writes too much that is clear in opinion and strongly felt, eventually that writer might find it better to keep quiet: the consequences of writing such views are frequently not pleasant to bear. This does not happen to all of my posts - but it does happen to some. It is usually those which touch on Singaporean life...these tend to excite mixed responses, some of them hostile. I must confess that makes me regret commenting.
In a more general fashion, beyond that of writing, there will always be those who disapprove of anything one does in life. The saddest part of this, of course, is that the ultimate logic leads one to conclude that it is impossible to please anyone at all. You see, any action, will be dissaproved of by some...but given a large enough number of different actions, it is sure that EVERYONE will disapprove of at least one action, thought or deed.
Generally, in life, I try very hard to please those close to me in life. Sometimes I fail. If I have failed to please you (for some readers know me), then I am sorry. I tried hard to please you, at all times...sometimes, however, I get it wrong.
I think the hardest thing about being human is getting the communication right, between people...there is always the possibility of failure in that arena, on some level, with inevitable negative consequences. I wish I was perfect at it - but I am not. I suppose that none of us are. I am however, trying...and that is all that any of us can do.
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